Positive thoughts?

[tryn2bmoms]

Hi friends,
We need your help!
For those of you that saw the documentary we are the couple that got the results for our pregnancy test on the cruise. As you already know they were negative. After meeting with more Dr's after the cruise, we were told that getting pregnant was not likely.
We decided to adopt.
The process has been going on now for more than a year. Things were moving along slower than expected and then about 3 months ago we hit a bump in the road. Things have been at a dead stop and now it seems that we will spend yet another Christmas without our daughter.
Our time on the rfamily cruises was so very inspiring and we met so many families that struggled to start their family as well. The families on that cruise were what gave us the courage to keep trying after the first two years of failure. My hope is that you will all keep us in your thoughts and that we can get a dose of that positive energy that kept us going on the cruise.
I believe that positive thoughts and energy carry so please send it if ya got it, cause we're running out!
Hoping for a Christmas miracle!!
Rhonda and Amy

[KJS84]

We will send you positive thoughts. Do not give up hope ever. There is always hope in every situation. I thought since i was gay i could never be a parent and that was 16 years ago. I am a parent of a teenager thru donor insemination. I never knew this was an option for me until i saw a Phil Donahue show that featured this topic. Just Believe .....It will happen for you....hang on to the hope......
take care kjs:D

[Patanekochi]

Hi Amy and Rhonda,

I thought it would be nice to respond to you in the wonderful forum that was created to network with such awesome people and a means to get support and encouragement. I know that the time for baby to come home to you is drawing near. We have so much faith in you. Keep your eyes on the light, the place you have come to.

Clay and I are still waiting for the state's approval to start the matching process. They have not mentioned anything to us while we have been waiting. The anxiety of the wait is so overwhelming. In the meantime we started with another agency where we just paid a lot of money to start the process. We just keep reminding ourselves that it will happen at the right time. In the meantime it is so nice to know that there are so many people who are living testimonies of dreams coming true.

We miss you both and are keeping you in our prayers daily.
Love you both,

James and Clay

[Crazy aka Cheryl]

Dear Amy and Rhonda,
Keep the faith and believe. You impacted so many people with your story. My teenager who is now 15 was so endeared by you two that she asked what do yu think happened to you when she didnt see you on last years cruise.My answer was they wil have a family one day. Please keep the faith and keep trying. I tknow you are going to be great MOMs.
Which state do you live in? I am asking because there are various support groups and different organizations that might be able to assist.I wish you all the best and will keep you in my prayers to the Gay Gods.
CRAZY aka Cheryl

[lisep]

Dear Amy and Rhoda,

I know how difficult the waiting is, having been there ourselves, checking a website more often than we should have to see where we stood or if any other new couples had been posted. The wait seems like it will never end, but one day it does, and it is because the baby or child that was meant for you has come, and it can be no other child because it is meant to be. We endured several situations that fell through for one reason or another, and those times we could have felt no worse, but it was for a child that we named Drew that we were waiting for. A ball of sunshine that greets the world with a smile.

Keep the hope. It will happen!

Lise and Marlene

[Jaye Lewis]

Hello Rhonda and Amy. I'm a member of the best fun-loving mom group on the net. It's called L-Moms2 in Yahoo Groups and there's almost 200 of us who have been through drastic measures, are still going through it and those who have succeeded. There are moms (and soon-to-be's) who can guide you through ANY process you want to know about. Every type of motherhood imagineable. Come join us and reap our energy.

Jaye

(There are dad groups too but I can't speak for those)

[WayneNYC]

Dear Rhonda and Amy, James and Clay, and others seeking to adopt:

There are a lot of online resources and email lists. Here are two lists that have a wealth of information:

The Gay Adoption Mailing List's aim is to provide support and information to G/B/L/T families who are considering adoption, and those who have adopted. The list is intended to focus specifically on concerns related to adoption by G/B/L/T persons. To join go to:
http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/CGI/wa.exe?SUBED1=gay-aparent&A=1

Adoption@yahoogroups is a similar list (I am the moderator) with resources.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/adoption


all my best!
Wayne

[avibear]

Dear Rhonda and Amy, James and Clay, and others,

We truly undestand and can relate to ups and downs of the process of LGBT people trying to have children. We thought we would post here to offer some hope that miracles can and do happen. My partner, Will, and I tried the IVF route for almost a year with his sister acting as a surrogate for us and it just didn't seem to be in the cards - and as you know it is very expensive. We then focused on the adoption route and were matched, the baby was born, and the birth mom changed her mind an hour before we were supposed to bring the baby home. We went into therapy for a brief while to deal with the loss and to help us build strength and reaffirm our commitment to become parents. Then we were matched with a different birth mom and a few short months later our son, Shai, was born and we have been so blessed. You can read an account of our process in an article about us that was carried in the San Francisco Chronicle a few month ago:

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2005/10/21/WBGVDF969L1.DTL&hw=Open+Adoption&sn=007&sc=205

The article was published a few days after we started our process to adopt a second child. As miraculous as life's gifts can sometimes be, 10 days after the article appeared our second son, Boaz, was born in November, from a different birth mom. We couldn't be any happier that we persevered the trials of the adoption process and kept true to our desire to be dads. We will all be travelling to Alaska with R Family in July 2006 and we look forward to meeting other families like ours and offering hope to others who are still in the process of building their families. We wish you all the best.

Avi & Will

[Patanekochi]

Wayne, Avi, and Will,

Thank you so much for such encouraging words and the awesome resources that you provided. Having a wonderful support network like yourselves in our lives have been such a blessing. When there are times where the waiting and the silence is unbearable, we simply go through our memories of all the families we have met on the ship and go to this awesome website so that we can focus on the spark again. Thank you so much.

Have a wonderful holiday and New Years!

Sincerely with love and aloha,

James and Clay