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[luckypak]

On HBO, we live in Idaho and have been life partners for 18 years. I am 40 years old and always dreamed of being a mother. 10 days ago my friend had a baby. Now I really have baby fever. I am not able to have any children as I had to have a hysterectomy and my partner is 45 and is a carpet installer so her carrying a child is out of the question. My dream would be to use my egg and find someone to carry the child. Anyone know how I can go about this and what the cost would be?? I am a stay at home wife also..

Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks Lynda

[Picfan]

On HBO, we live in Idaho and have been life partners for 18 years. I am 40 years old and always dreamed of being a mother. 10 days ago my friend had a baby. Now I really have baby fever. I am not able to have any children as I had to have a hysterectomy and my partner is 45 and is a carpet installer so her carrying a child is out of the question. My dream would be to use my egg and find someone to carry the child. Anyone know how I can go about this and what the cost would be?? I am a stay at home wife also..

Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks Lynda

I don't have any advice but WOW 18 years! That is awesome!

[ourtribe]

We're gay dads in Vermont...tried A LONG TIME to concieve but as often as we tried neither of us got pregnant. :cool:

My sister had offered to carry the baby that would have been created with my partner and my sister...things at first seem to fly, even with her husband (they had already 2 kids)...but it got messy fast when my parents realized that we were all serious about the possibility. Well long story short, even though my sister never waivered, the family was splintering. This wasn't how we wanted to things to be for the start of OUR FAMILY. I told my sister that this wasn't what was meant to be...and GOD had a plan...we needed to just be open to it. Soon, after lots of heart to heart exploring with my partner, it became clearer and clearer the answer to our question. Adoption through Foster Care would be perfect. A child looking for, NEEDING, a family and US looking for, needing in our heart to MAKE a family. The solution was even clearer to us with the placement of our first foster child 'Michael'. When I saw my partner with this amazing little 10 mo old I knew we were on the right path. We were meant to be Dads and we were well on our way... this placement turned out to be only 7 days. Our hearts broken when we realized Michael would not be OUR son. But, after alot of tears, several months of waiting, and reminding ourselves of our mission, it happened. The placement of now our BEAUTIFUL daughter. She came to us at 15 mo old...just after Christmas. On Christmas eve that year we were all standing befor the judge to finalize her adoption. The following year we adopted her biological new born brother...

And that is what was meant for us. We are very blessed, and looking back I would do it all over. OUR extended family have been amazing and extremely supportive...the way we wanted this experience to be...

Foster Care for adoption is sometimes a differcult journey. However differcult it may be, the journey has always taught us envaluable lessons about love...with my partner and for a child. These children need our love...and don't we want to share? I got over quickly the thought that I needed to create a biological child. FOR US, that wasn't necessary for creating OUR family.

Good luck to you on your journey. ;)

[Picfan]

We're gay dads in Vermont...tried A LONG TIME to concieve but as often as we tried neither of us got pregnant. :cool:

My sister had offered to carry the baby that would have been created with my partner and my sister...things at first seem to fly, even with her husband (they had already 2 kids)...but it got messy fast when my parents realized that we were all serious about the possibility. Well long story short, even though my sister never waivered, the family was splintering. This wasn't how we wanted to things to be for the start of OUR FAMILY. I told my sister that this wasn't what was meant to be...and GOD had a plan...we needed to just be open to it. Soon, after lots of heart to heart exploring with my partner, it became clearer and clearer the answer to our question. Adoption through Foster Care would be perfect. A child looking for, NEEDING, a family and US looking for, needing in our heart to MAKE a family. The solution was even clearer to us with the placement of our first foster child 'Michael'. When I saw my partner with this amazing little 10 mo old I knew we were on the right path. We were meant to be Dads and we were well on our way... this placement turned out to be only 7 days. Our hearts broken when we realized Michael would not be OUR son. But, after alot of tears, several months of waiting, and reminding ourselves of our mission, it happened. The placement of now our BEAUTIFUL daughter. She came to us at 15 mo old...just after Christmas. On Christmas eve that year we were all standing befor the judge to finalize her adoption. The following year we adopted her biological new born brother...

And that is what was meant for us. We are very blessed, and looking back I would do it all over. OUR extended family have been amazing and extremely supportive...the way we wanted this experience to be...

Foster Care for adoption is sometimes a differcult journey. However differcult it may be, the journey has always taught us envaluable lessons about love...with my partner and for a child. These children need our love...and don't we want to share? I got over quickly the thought that I needed to create a biological child. FOR US, that wasn't necessary for creating OUR family.

Good luck to you on your journey. ;)

What a great story! Thanks for sharing!

[2moms4kids]

On HBO, we live in Idaho and have been life partners for 18 years. I am 40 years old and always dreamed of being a mother. 10 days ago my friend had a baby. Now I really have baby fever. I am not able to have any children as I had to have a hysterectomy and my partner is 45 and is a carpet installer so her carrying a child is out of the question. My dream would be to use my egg and find someone to carry the child. Anyone know how I can go about this and what the cost would be?? I am a stay at home wife also..

Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks Lynda



Lynda,

I don't have any info for you about surrogates (sorry), but I wanted to let you know about our great experience with foster care adoptions. My partner and I also live in Idaho and tomorrow we will be celebrating 16 yrs together :D (yeah!)...anyway, we went through the Dept of Health and Welfare in Boise and now we are the proud parents of four kids that range in age from 1 1/2 to 10.

Foster care adoption was not our dream at first. We (more specifically my partner) wanted to give birth to a child. But after she miscarried for the third time we had to face a harsh reality and come to terms with the fact that we would not be able to have our own biological child. It was devestating and for awhile we thought we might never get to be parents.

Then I happened to watch a Primetime Live special with Rosie that talked about adoption and the great need to find parents for all these kids who languish in foster care. Suddenly everything became clear. We were meant to adopt a child. We only wanted to adopt one or maybe two kids, so sometimes I can't believe we now have four, but I believe that everything has happened the way it was supposed to and I can't imagine our life without these four wonderful kids.

I don't know if my story helps you or not, but I wish you luck on your journey to parenthood, whatever path it may take.

Michelle

[cebii]

We found our children through foster care as well. We've only adopted a couple of the kids because the others are unavailable for one reason or another, but they know we would if we could. Seven, all together, from 19 to two. For the older girls, some may still call their biomoms "mom" rather than us, but we are their stability and source of unconditional love.

[luckypak]

Lynda,

I don't have any info for you about surrogates (sorry), but I wanted to let you know about our great experience with foster care adoptions. My partner and I also live in Idaho and tomorrow we will be celebrating 16 yrs together :D (yeah!)...anyway, we went through the Dept of Health and Welfare in Boise and now we are the proud parents of four kids that range in age from 1 1/2 to 10.

Foster care adoption was not our dream at first. We (more specifically my partner) wanted to give birth to a child. But after she miscarried for the third time we had to face a harsh reality and come to terms with the fact that we would not be able to have our own biological child. It was devestating and for awhile we thought we might never get to be parents.

Then I happened to watch a Primetime Live special with Rosie that talked about adoption and the great need to find parents for all these kids who languish in foster care. Suddenly everything became clear. We were meant to adopt a child. We only wanted to adopt one or maybe two kids, so sometimes I can't believe we now have four, but I believe that everything has happened the way it was supposed to and I can't imagine our life without these four wonderful kids.

I don't know if my story helps you or not, but I wish you luck on your journey to parenthood, whatever path it may take.

Michelle


My email address is luckypak@aol.com, can you give me more information on the Dept of Health and Welfare in Boise and what you have to do to get things rolling?? WOW I live in Nampa BTW. Just up the road from you!