Safe Haven Baby

[Special K]

My son is 1 years old. I picked him up from the hospital when he was four days old. His birth mom surrendered him to a local Emergency Room. Heis the light of my life and we are a perfect match. I just have so many questions and I wonder if there are any other families that have adopted surrendered babies. I stress when he gets sick because I have no background information or history. I am not even sure what his nationality is, the hospital listed him as caucasian but he looks a little asian. I think the nurses just gathered around him and decided he look caucasian so they put that on the birth certificate.

[2moms4kids]

We are also the parents of a Safe Haven baby. We picked him up from the hospital when he was 2 days old and he is now 2 1/2! We went through alot of stress as well due to not knowing anything about his medical or family history - except for the fact that he tested positive for cocaine and meth at birth. He has had alot of medical problems and is about 9 months developmentally delayed, but he is an absolute joy and we cannot imagine life without him.

The adoption process took longer than it should have just because he was only the 3rd surrendered baby that Idaho had ever had, and everyone at Health and Welfare was completely confused about how to handle things. Getting him a birth certificate was a huge mess as was getting him a social security number. I would be happy to chat anytime and share whatever info I can or answer any questions that I can. Email me, or just reply to this thread.

Take care,

Michelle

[cebii]

You may never know his actual race or mix, and the nurses probably either used the mother's race or guessed, like you said. The mantra in our transracial adoption group is "Our hearts are the same color".

As far as health problems, make sure you trust your pediatrician. If he or she is not patient enough with your concerns and questions, find another one. I call and talk to the nurse with questions if I'm not sure. Have him tested for developmental delays if you haven't already, so that they can be addressed as soon as possible, or you can relax knowing that he is on target.

Forums like this are a great place to ask questions and voice concerns, as well.