needs advice

[francine]

Help, I need some information, My ex partner and I purchased a house in 1991 as a lease purchase and 3 years later I had to apply for a mortgage and at the time she was not working but put her name on the mortgage in name only, no income. She moved out in 1994 and verbally gave me full control of the house. Now i need to refinance and and her name is still on the deed .She is trying to extort 10,000 dollars from me to do so. She never made one payment on the mortgage and has been out of the house for 12 years. Can i legally remove her for abandonment? I have been in this house now for 15 years,put alot of money into improvements and am living there now with my partner and 3 children. She begged me to keep her on because of credit reasons only and now is using this against me. I actually agreed to give her the money and now she is refusing to sign the house over to me. What can i legally do????

[wigglewomyn]

All laws regarding issues like this are different from state to state. You don't mention which state you live in. My advice to you is to get a very good attorney wherever you live. Sorry that I can't tell you something you would like to hear :confused:

Help, I need some information, My ex partner and I purchased a house in 1991 as a lease purchase and 3 years later I had to apply for a mortgage and at the time she was not working but put her name on the mortgage in name only, no income. She moved out in 1994 and verbally gave me full control of the house. Now i need to refinance and and her name is still on the deed .She is trying to extort 10,000 dollars from me to do so. She never made one payment on the mortgage and has been out of the house for 12 years. Can i legally remove her for abandonment? I have been in this house now for 15 years,put alot of money into improvements and am living there now with my partner and 3 children. She begged me to keep her on because of credit reasons only and now is using this against me. I actually agreed to give her the money and now she is refusing to sign the house over to me. What can i legally do????

[4TotalNearPSP]

Wow... I don't think you'd want to take legal advice from a forum like this, should probably see a lawyer for good legal advice (first session is usually free). But I'd pay her off. Of course I'd negotiate a bit, offer her $500 and see what happens. Explain you have kids, and not alot of money available, and you are just doing this to avoid a legal battle with expenses on both sides. Plus you could hire a hit-man for $10,000, so why would you pay her that much.

My guess is you'd be looking at legal fees of at least $3,000 if you go that route, so I'd settle for $1,500 without much thought to it (ok... I'd give a lot of thought and have little vodoo dolls made on the Winter Carribean cruise). But I'd think if she is on the deed, you could be in a lot more trouble if you go to court too.

Sorry, probably not what you wanted to hear, but I really think it is something to think about.

[vespagirl]

No offense but I don't see why you are posting such personal information on a travel message board. This is not the appropriate forum to seek this type of advice.

[francine]

Sorry, I shouldnt have put it in first person content .My friends that know me on the boards know im just trying to help someone and was looking for some advice from my comuunity .

[Crazy aka Cheryl]

Hey Vespa Girl,
This is a Gay FORUM ! The problem that they have is personal yet VERY GAY!
I believe that this site was put together to be a way for past and potiential cruisers to communicate as well a source of support for the GAY R FAMILY community! I think that it was quite appropriate to reach out to OUR community and see if they could get some advice. Have you read any of the postings besides where to go what to wear and who is preforming? There are many that talk about adoption, fertility,parenting, etc.....Hmmn that sounds personal to me! Some very good advice has been exchanged. People are getting help with some everyday GAY problems that we face often alone.Not everyone has lawyer money or lives in a gay friendly environment.
PS. Didnt your Mom ever teach you that if you didnt have anything nice to say dont say anything at all?
CHERYL (AKA) CRAZY Dont apologize frannie not neccessary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !
Love ya GUYS
Call me
PSS I believe it says member not moderator next to your name

[teefeb19]

vespagirl I think you need to get a clue as to what this forum is really about. It's for our community to ask and get support from people that may have experienced the same issue also there may be a lawyer out there that can offer generalized information on the subject.

Frannie keep on posting someone out there may be able to help you out.

[immikeymcc]

Get an attorney, run do not walk.

[vespagirl]

Hey Vespa Girl,
PS. Didnt your Mom ever teach you that if you didnt have anything nice to say dont say anything at all?

PSS I believe it says member not moderator next to your name
I certainly didn't intend to be offensive,nor did I infer I am a moderator. I don't see where I said anything that was not "nice", but each to her own to interpret it. You on the other hand responded to my post in a rather strong manner, but ok, whatever.

[Picfan]

I have a friend who did something similar. She and her partner put a moble home on her partner's parents land. We all told her not to do it because the land was not given to them both just her partner but she did it anyway because it was forever. They were together 11 years and split because her partner was unfaithful to her. So now her partner lives in the trailer and is dragging her feet about getting my friends name off of the deed. She is trying to sell it but it wont sell she owes way more than it is worth and it has to be moved. I keep telling my friend to get a lawyer before she gets screwed over any worse but she is dragging her feet. Now that I wrote all this I don't know what my point was or if I ever had one. LOL Just sharing I guess.

[francine]

hey picfan .the ex lives near you in florida with her partner.we have contacted a lawyer it will cost alot of money ..this is not my house but my partners so i am trying to get any answer for this mess 4 her.the worst part of this is that the ex moved out over 10 years and never contributed anything when she was here.why are people so **** GREEDY. i appreciate the advice....thank you..someone mentioned a hit man.......shhhhhhhhh lol

[avibear]

..this is not my house but my partners so i am trying to get any answer for this mess 4 her.the worst part of this is that the ex moved out over 10 years and never contributed anything when she was here.why are people so **** GREEDY. i appreciate the advice....thank you..someone mentioned a hit man.......shhhhhhhhh lol

When asked her opinion of gay marriage, Dolly Parton said joking that “gay people should have the right to be as miserable as married straight people are."

I guess it's unfortunate that it's just human nature that some people are jerks. I hope things work out for the best.