Remember "Coming out to Kids"?

[MainEac]

I"m finally out there with my boy! Thank you for all of your support! For those of you who sent warm thoughts and advice---it has been greatly appreciate! Telling my son was harder than I thought and also easier than I thought! He is handling things in such a way that I keep looking at him in amazement.
Thank you all, once again!

[itsmewendee]

Greetings from Oregon!
When I told my son, or rather when he told ME, he was 14 and said, Mom...I know. I said you know what? He said, about you and Heather. I said, ok..is it all good? He said, of course! I just wish you would be more comfortable with it! From the mouths...of teenagers! I wish I had let myself be more comfortable. After all, I've lived with who I really am on the inside since I was 9. I didn't come out, per say, but had "a very dear and special x-friend" do the honors of finding out (through goggling my email address and seeing my posts on blogs and threads no less!) and then she wrote me a kiss off letter. That snowballed into the other "good friends" who wished to banish me. You see, I had been a terrific person, friend, mom, volunteer, church member, church leader and all around respectable citizen...but once I was 'found out' .. oh no! Those things were no longer titles for me. So, having my children (I have two, the other older one later that month said he knew as well!) be on my side and love me and are two fabulous and responsible human beings is all I could want. What I DID find out, was after the 'coming out' the true release of freedom is mind boggling! The smile is true, the new friends know me for the real me (and like me!), the inner family accepted me, although it was a little difficult at first, but they are my blood and we have a strong bond of love together! I don't have to hide pictures, greeting cards, hugs, holding hands, and just genuinely I'm able to be free! I hope others will learn to not wait until I did, but to embrace themselves and have faith in themselves enough to do it at an earlier age so they could enjoy life as a whole person! Bravo to those who have done so when they had to 'hide' for whatever reasons they felt they needed to. Consider yourselves all hugged by me:D

[cebii]

Bravo!! The actual telling was always the hardest for me - I was fortunate and didn't really have any bad reactions.

[MainEac]

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Thank you! My son is doing well with the whole thing with me. He is NOT doing well knowing that his grandparents are disgusted with me for exposing him to this lifestyle. He feels caught in the middle. He did ask to meet my girlfriend. I was a nervous wreck. They hit it off immediately! What a relief!:)

[cebii]

My advice about the grandparents: Keep to the high road. You are not doing anything wrong. Make sure that any negativity comes from THEM and if it is directed towards you, it slides off your back like water off a duck. You are just happily living your life, which your son is welcome to be part of. It is unfortunate they feel that way, but you are doing what you need to do.

[cwefamily]

HI glad you came out, because I think others usually already know....and I understand how you felt when you NO longer had any of those titles and everyone who said they were your friends left....I experienced the same thing about 2yrs ago.....I had been married for about 12 yrs and my marriage was falling apart, for 6yrs I had been unhappy and he didn't believe me that I was unhappy....In town I put on my happy face, and went on being the wonderfull mom, church goer, volunteer, school mom etc....but deep inside I was very unhappy, not because I was gay...I never would have thought that about me...I wanted to start my life over, but didn't know how I was going to do it with 7 kids under the age of 11 at that time.....:eek: yes I know....so anyways.....I found myself coaching softball for the second year with a new asst....who was labeled as a lesbian in our town, I labeled her too...I always thought she was nice..so anyways, I kept feeling something when I was with her, and it was so strange for me, but I felt it, the love, the wonderful feeling..so I told my husband that I think I am gay and falling in love with someone....not a good thing, for him or the town I lived in...well long story short....2yrs later the love of my life and I are living together with the kids in a new town, making a new start and loving my life.....So anyways cudos to you....I am openly gay, and have told my kids from the start and can't explain to them why...I just fell in love with the person who my heart desired and my kids are doing great with it.....they have accepted my new life, and we are a very open and honest family....we often joke around which I think helps them too....
good luck...