I would love to get some advice!!

[JennyGirl]

Hello all!! My name is Jenn. I am a 30yr old single mom of an amazing 7yr old boy and I just recently found out that I am HIV positive. :( I am on here today because I know that this community is like family. There is so much hate and judgement against us so with something like this forum it gives us all a chance to not only find out about the cruises but all get to talk with others who understand. Not only do I have being a lesbian against me but now also the iggnorance people have about this disease. So basically what I am asking is related to the subject but indirectly.

Could anyone give me information about gay adoptions? Being handed somewhat of a death sentance I need to get my ducks in a row. Currently I am single as I stated previously but I live with someone who is willing to help me when the time comes that I can't help myself and she will be taking on the responsability of my son. I would love for her to have the rights I have with him now so when my time does come there is no fighting with the state or anything.

With that being said any advice, support would be greatly appreciated. Currently I am in this alone so any words of wisdom would do me good.

Live Each Day And Be Glad For It!! ;)

Love & Peace

J

[Gaydad]

Hi JennyGirl.
I know things may seem bleak right now but trust me, it will get better. Two years ago while my partner and I was in the process of adopting our son I was diagnosed HIV+. I dont have to tell you that I was compleatly floored. By the time I found out I had it, my T cell count as extremely low. I had pretty much decided that I was going to die and nothing was going to stop it. But with the help of a fantastic Dr., my health has come leaps and bounds. So you see, I am living proof that you can and live a normal life. By the way, we were still able to adopt our son and he is the light of my life. Keep your chin up. It will get better, I promise.

Gaydad

[JennyGirl]

So these last couple of days I have learned a lot about people. People who "claimed" to be my friend. People who say they would do anything for you and help you. Well I guess that is not true. I have told people who I thought would be a support for me and was told things like "girl dont feel sorry for yourself, we all die one day". "Why dwell on what you have, you could be hit by a train tomorrow and then it would not even matter" "Don't try and make your problems my problems". WOW is all I have to say. I would never treat someone like that. Especially someone I considered a friend. I learned a fact that sent chills up my spine. Actually it made me sick. I learned that more people then not actually ending up taking their own life because they can't deal with the mental side of habing HIV and feeling along. I see what they mean but I am not willing to give up. You see I like to prove people wrong so my goal is to help people that feel like no one else it there for them. I have one person in my "support group" right now. ONE!! Most everyone else has turned their back on me including my own family but that will not stop me from living. No way no how. With that being said I hope to start some type of nationwide campaign against HIV/AIDS and help not only educate the general public but lend a shoulder to cry on if someone feels they are all alone. This is sad people, sad. SO I am asking for all of your support as well. I hope to make it on the boat but if not we are all around the country so lets stop this..

Jenn

[MOMMIMI]

I don't know what state you are in but you should be able to just have your partner adopt your son with you. My partner and I are almost finished with an adoption through the count that we live in, and we are adopting her together. There should be a way for you were you live to be able to both be your sons mom's.:) As far as the way others are treating you, just remember people are ignorant, and just don't understand. Good luck.

[JennyGirl]

Hey thanks for responding to my message. About the adopting of my son... you see my partner is the one who gave me this visus. I had no idea that she was even positive. She is not who I want to adopt him. I have a great great friend who is living with me and is willing to take on the responsiblity of being a parent to my son. That is such a huge commitment. I think it is so big of her and I am honored she would be willing to take this on. I just am not sure the route to take